I’ll post some information form the archives that addresses the efficacy of condoms.
It could be the case that she dumped you and you’re pretending that you want to hook up when you really just want to get back together, or that she’s totally hung up on you while you just want to get her in bed. But if you really are looking for the same things, then it’s safe to go for it. Look into her eyes when you talk about your hook-up status. Outcall
But people aren’t items on a grocery store isle Moving from dating to relationship for me means I have to feel like I know the person and that I want a long-term relationship with them. I don’t feel that happens until after several months of dating, typically in the month range. At this stage, we’re also possibly talking about moving in together, introducing our respective families, and other longer term goals.
If it’s not, it’s worth looking at why for yourself, and seeing what you can do to work that out. Let me suggest one more thing. Sounds like if you could share your concerns about your own sexual self-worth and performance with your girlfriend, the way you have with me, that it might make her feel a WHOLE lot better about her concerns, and would probably bring the two of you closer.